Men tend to behave in extremely annoying ways at times. And often, we figure giving them ultimatums is the only way to go. Granted, giving them an ultimatum to choose you or whatever it is that is annoying you seems like the only way you’ll get some peace and not lose your mind.
However, this might just become a dangerous habit on your part. One that may lead to him resenting you. Or worse, seeing you lose that dare. So let’s look at what you really shouldn’t make him give up.
- His mom
I have no idea at all what it is with mothers in law but most of them are a real pain. You would think that when you are finally married she would get over the fact that she can’t do anything anymore – you’re his wife. But no, she comes to your house and doesn’t leave. When she’s visiting she makes sure she points out every second how very useless you are. Monster in law is definitely the right way to put it.
However, she is also the woman who made your man the way he is today. You love him lots because his mom played a big role in his life. That mother-son bond is like no other bond on earth and you threatening it really doesn’t score any points for you. What to do? Well, every situation is different but willing yourself to love her unconditionally inspite of how she treats you just might be the first step in the right direction.
- His family
I decided to seperate his mom and his family well becuase his mom and his family just cannot be put in the same category. Mothers in law are a whole different breed of species altogether. And then his family? His family can range from the ones you really like to the ones you detest completely.
However, in the words of AVICI, “even though water is sweet, blood is thicker than water”.
- His friends
We often underestimate the influence a guy’s friends can have on him. Sure your man might not seem like the type that gets pressured to do anything. But hey, when its just the boys together and you are nowhere near him, you have absolutely no idea what they talk about and what his friends say about you and how he takes it. And if they have been best buddies for long enough for them to see each other as practically brothers, attempting to destroy that relationship just could be your ruin too.
- His fav sport
Why we don’t understand that sport is to men what shopping and gossiping and lah-di-das are to us women is incredible. We can be super selfish when we want. We have to be the only thing that matters to them and nothing else should even be a close second. Isn’t that totally unfair. Let him watch his game of soccer, cricket or boxing or whatever it is he is crazy about. I figure its a lot less easier than fighting about it every time.
- A boys’ night/day
So yes its fun hanging with your man. Be it going out together or staying in. However, everyone needs to spend time with their friends alone. YOU need to go crazy with your girlfriends and he too needs to go nuts with his boys. So how about we stop throwing tantrums every time he wants to spend some time with his people and let him eh?
- ? Number six? Well why don’t YOU tell us the sixth thing we shouldn’t make our men give up for us?
Because even though it might be thoughtful of you to give him his space and not bite his head off for every little thing, I see it as a face saving maneuver. You don’t make him choose between you and whatever, and you don’t have to go crying into your bedroom because he wouldn’t choose you.
PS totally taking a page from Think Like A Man
